I've been wanting to talk to someone/people other than my own friends about this situation. I always like to see other people's POVs are on things. I am so sorry for the essay I am about to post on here but I can't leave details out. Here we go!
So I was studying abroad in the UK a few months back and met this really handsome guy on Tinder. He "Super Liked" me, I checked his profile out, and thought he was worth talking to so I swiped right. He was super nice over text message and we arranged to meet up a few days later.
Finally, we meet up and have our first date. We met up and went to a local pub where we sat for 4+ hours just talking about literally everything. We hit it off so well! I found out that he spoke Spanish (I'm Latina) and that we had so many other things in common.
As the date progresses, my date-- let's call him John-- admits to me that he finds my attitude and demeanor intimidating. That he's not used to girls being so sure of themselves and being unapologetically them! I pride myself in that.
Anyway, so he asks me if he can hold my hand and then asks if he can kiss me. Sparks flew from the moment we first kissed. We literally couldn't keep our hands off of each other. We made out for what felt like an eternity and finally decided to leave the pub. We made out some more afterward and then, after a really long night, parted ways.
We eventually made plans for a second date and pretty much talked everyday. He would always mentioned how he was thinking about me while he was at work and saying all of this cute stuff. He brought up wanting to go on another date sooner than we had planned, but I had already made plans with friends weeks before so I didn't want to cancel on them. He mentions wanting to go see a movie with me OR we could watch one at my place or his. Automatically, trying to be funny, I said "are you trying to Netflix & Chill with me?!" He responds and admits that he would like to have sex. But here's the catch... I'm still a virgin. And as much as I wanted to sleep with him (trust me, I REALLY wanted to), I was and still am too scared to admit to him that I am a virgin. Some guys get scared off by that shit. It sucks.
Long story shortened, he ended up standing me up for our second date after I proposed that we keep our original plans and "see what happens afterwards ;)." We stopped talking for about 2 weeks until I finally messaged him letting him know how rude it was for him to stand me up and not even give me a heads up, and how I hated that he read my messages and never answered back. He literally replied in like 10 seconds apologizing, saying that he was busy with work and traveling and blah blah blah. So now I'm thinking that he "ghosted" me because I didn't mention out loud (or in this case in writing) that I wanted to have sex with him too. I mean, what's up with that? What is up with this hook-up culture we live in today and why don't guys think that maybe they should try a little bit harder before getting in a girl's pants? Not to sound like a Negative Nancy, but come on. All I wanted was to go out on one more date before I let him put his hands down my pants.
What do you guys think?