Relationship Thursday for December 20, 2018

My husband frustrates me to no end sometimes, and last night we finally had an emotional conversation (i.e. fight) about it. I hate how he always turns my issues with him into his issues with me, making me look like the bad guy.

I went on "vacation" to visit my father for 3 days, and when I got back the house was the same as I left it. Even a dirty bowl in the sink was still sitting there (this stupid thing was the main point of contention). I feel like he puts no effort into keeping the house clean or fixing issues that crop up. That's what the fight was mostly about, but he turned it on me saying that when I ask him to do things, I do so with little respect or tolerance, which is probably true because unless I say "this needs to be done," it will never get done. Also that I'm passive aggressive about it (which is also true). He claimed he was "too busy" taking care of our animals and himself to do stuff... yet you had time to go hang out with our friends all of Monday night. OK.

For example, one of the bathroom fans is broken, and I asked him to come help me look at it so I could order a new motor. Well 20 minutes later I was still waiting for him to stop playing video games, and eventually watched a video, pried the thing off myself, and ordered the part on Home Depot by the time he came upstairs.

Maybe I expect too much from him, idk. I ended it saying I'd be more respectful when asking him to do stuff, if he showed more incentive in helping around the house. Takes 2 to tango, man.

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