Potential mental health issues aside....

I think it's very likely she could have a challenging relationship with her mother. I think it's easy for us to say she had it all and had a great relationship. Sure, we've seen a lot of her dad. However, I think it's so easy to blame the child when it comes to tricky parental relationships.

I'm an adoptee and my two siblings are not. My parents got pregnant right after my adoption like less than a year later their first biological child was born. And I was treated very differently after that point and even into adulthood by only my mom, not my dad.

I think that surface level wise people probably think that we have a great relationship, family friends etc. Because my mom does surface level things in public or around others. But while yes, I had all my needs met and a roof over my head, I now have a lot of stuff to work through because of our issues. And it still sticks with me in my mid 30s.

I know it seems T is ignoring a lot of her issues and not actually getting help. And my situation is so different, but I worked multiple jobs and kept overly busy throughout my 20s instead of facing my struggles because it was too painful to deal with at the time and I didn't know how (I had already been in and out of therapy before). So I think we can hope for her to get help and truly hope she does, I don't think ignoring these root issues at 25 or whatever is that uncommon especially with a tricky childhood (and all their religious stuff)...

Just thought I'd share. There's a lot that annoys me about her and I think a lot of her struggles are the result of things she's chosen to do herself....behaviors and deciions. But I do think that it's likely way more complicated than any of us realize.