Relationships are hard

I spent years looking for "the right one", irritated with every girl who seemed to be able to put up with my flaws, and looking for somebody who matched my ideal of perfection. Of course, when I finally found it, I came off as endlessly clingy and emotional, even when I tried not to, and ruined the relationship that I had wanted so badly in the first place.

It may be an ISFP thing, it may be a personality thing -- ultimately, I learned to accept people for the flaws they have, to not judge people who accept my flaws for their own personal shortcomings -- and if that perfect girl ever comes along again, DO NOT CLING or become overwhelmed by the love, but show natural affection and allow it to progress naturally, on their time as well as mine. I had a tendency towards resolute implacability, meaning I would not change an aspect of myself for even the perfect girl, if they did not like me, well, then fine!, who needs em?

That point of view is wrong, and it takes losing that special someone to find that out.

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