This guy will continue to exist with or without me calling myself a lesbian. He will exist because of porn telling him that all queer women are actually interested in his dick. He will exist because of male privilege and heteronormativity.
Meanwhile I will hurt when I have to lie to be accepted in even a little. I will hurt when there is no community for me. I hurt when the people on this reddit rage against anyone who is not pure enough for their tastes. It does not matter to them that I don't want to date men right now. I will still hurt for having that door slammed in my face repeatedly.