I’m truly sorry this happened to you and I know you are hurting and confused. This seems fairly common here.

My ex either lied about being pregnant to hoover me (it was possible) after our millionth breakup, or she was telling the truth, but after we got back together for like a week, seemed like we were going to stay together and have a family, we had a huge blowout fight that of course she started, I managed to reconcile, but then she wanted time apart. We continued to discuss the future / baby, a couple weeks later she said she was no longer pregnant and didn’t think we should talk, only to start sexting me the next day, and then it fell apart again soon after. Long story short she was back to dating casually within 3 weeks of the supposed miscarriage, told me about being on a dating app while trying to hoover me, then days later moved far away for a long-planned and lengthy sabbatical, and we went unofficial no contact. She wrote me 2.5 months later (still during the time of the sabbatical) about how I’m so great, no man can compare, etc., and when I asked what that meant about us she never replied, ever. TURNS OUT that she met someone 3 weeks into her trip, who of course was from where we lived, she moved back here a week later and starting plastering her social media with him, and when she wrote me it was during an apparent break with him — she never let on that she came home early or was seeing anyone — only for them to get back together right after, when I asked about us.

So she either lied about being pregnant and then decided to not keep up the ruse and moved on casually within a few weeks, only to be in a insta-relationship within another few weeks of reaching back out to me, or it was the same timeline and she did all that after having a miscarriage after so many seemingly heartfelt talks about wanting a family with me. This after we knew each other for many, many years and finally had a (initially earnest but ultimately tumultuous) relationship for a year.

Father’s Day this week was fucking rough because if it had been true and we did make it work and she was healthy, I would have been a dad.

My advice beyond what’s been shared already: scorch and salt the earth and never look back. The past only brings madness. Focus on your future with yourself and without them. Good luck.