Why? At the end of the day, we're all flawed. <Enter> OP's girlfriend here. I posted something here a few months back about this situation:<Enter> My boyfriend of nearly a year was a hardcore porn/webcam addict. He was involved in most of all things seedy: (not very legal) teencams, meet 'n' fucks, love sims, bondage chats, anonymous video chats (with guys, older women & young teenagers)... just about everything you can think of. He kept this part of his past a secret. His story began unravelling when he lied about a girl on his Google + that was "just some girl". Shortly after that, one of his ex-e-girl's contacted me. She sent me all of the pictures and chats they had (she was bitter that he just stopped talking to her for no reason). She saw on his facebook that we were together). He was crazy passionate and loving. My problem with all of this (besides the lying) is that up until a month ago, he lived on the other side of the country so 70% of our relationship has been long distance. He refused to have an electronically intimate relationship with me. He led me to believe that it was not something he did... like I was some sort of creep for bringing it up. When he was caught and I asked him why he could not do the same with me, he said he was not "inspired by me". Naturally, I was crestfallen. I do not think a whole lot about my appearance but I am not ugly or obese. I take care of myself. Our sex life is good, but I have to insinuate the sex 99% of the time... ...so he fucks girls online every day for years... Has watched hundreds of hours of porn... has spent thousands of dollars on teencams... has sent hundreds of photos of his cock, received just as many naked photos of others... has said some of the most erotic things to perfect strangers yet, with me? He is straight up vanilla (he has had several unprotected one-night stands.. he lied about those as well). Is it just me? Does this sound doomed or am I just being jealous? <Enter> In the past months that this has happened, more and more lies have been discovered (I did not know that he was cheating on me until recently). My self-worth is non-existent (if you would have seen the people he was paying to jerk off to, you would understand) and my trust for him (in this situation) is null. <Enter> If you removed this element, our relationship is stellar. I know that probably makes no sense, but it is true. Sadly, the negativity is sucking the goodness out. <Enter> At some point, it may be more productive to just state you have talked to a lot of web cam girls and not try to quantify it further. Instead, focus your discussions on what changes she needs you to make and what hoops you can jump through to prove to her you want to be more honest and a better person and that you're willing to change. In other words, at this point, living in the past is worth only so much. Unless she truly needs more details to make an informed decision about whether to remain with you, they don't seem to do much good for either of you. <Enter> I know a lot of the details, and no... I never needed to find out the way I did. You do not want to know that your SO has spent more money watching the same trailer park trash woman finger her wrinkly vagina that he ever has on you. Engagement ring included (sorry for that bitchy girl comment... they seem to come to fluidly these days. <Enter> no pun intended!) <Enter>I know it makes the most sense for us to take the year + of our relationship and walk away. People end relationships all the time. <Enter> We have put so much time into this, so much work... so many tears. At some point you have to realise that you want something and you strive to make it work. <Enter> ...right?