Well, I am typing blindly through tears here... your post really moved me. I have been struggling lately, trying to put into words for my TBM family, jut how damaging tscc is for certain types of people. How brutal, unloving, and such a hopeless place, the never ending cycle of needless guilt and shame. Thank you for sharing words that helped things click into place for me. You also helped me level up in my healing process, kind stranger. Your words drew sad, broken recognition from my soul, of the hopeless struggle some of us feel or felt in the church. I am one of those black sheep. Your words touched me deeply, thank you for having the courage and wisdom to post.