Is this right/fair?

I mean but he's literally open??? So like, sure, if he's lying, he's lying about literally everything, and everyone who knows them both personally, and hangs out with them all the time are also covering for him. That seems like a stretch. He's dated plenty of people, he was seeing someone before me. I just don't want to be like "hey, I know it's been literally 6 months since I've been dating your husband but Reddit said maybe I should check in with you if it's cool?" They've been this way for a while, that's why they were open to begin with, because they were across the country from each other and now even though they're together, she still has her boyfriend she apparently sees. Do I know her boyfriends? No. I also don't care. If he's lying to me, he's lying to me. But I don't know why I have to pry and try to find out. It's not my fault if someone is lying and then we end a month from now anyway.

I trust him. I trust he's telling me the truth. He's got no reason to lie about being open or lie in general. If he was going to lie about having an open marriage why not just not tell me he's married at all? It'd be so easy!

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