rinse or plausible?

I don't think you are being rinsed, but the irregularity and unfortunate timing of her periods and alterations in her sex drive are a relationship killer regardless of the possible reasons.

Were you married or vanilla, this is something you work through together, even at risk of significant periods without sex. But one of the reasons you enter a sugar relationship, and pay for the privilege, is to avoid these sorts of complications.

I would simply tell her that her medical/ psychological issues around sex are simply above your pay grade. Tell here that you are certainly willing- even eager- to resume your arrangement if she can get these issues under some level of control and comfort, but until she does, yours is not a relationship that is compatible with sugaring.

My guess- there are issues of attraction, guilt, trauma, and physiology at play, that will have to be addressed with a combination of OBGYN consultation, medication, psychotherapy, maturity, and pragmatism. She will figure it out or not, but its not your role to pay for the privilege watching from the sidelines while she does. Good luck.

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