It’s okay to set a boundary saying that you cannot handle this person’s drama and you don’t want to hear about it. Your feelings are totally valid.

My wife and I do our best to support our partners when they’re going through tough times, just like we would do with anyone else in our life. We are hierarchical, date separately, and have a policy of being very intentional with the time we spend together. If a partner’s drama were to consistently interfere with that, it would be a major issue for me.

Sure, it’s impossible to expect partners to constantly be cheerful and carefree. If a partners problems are starting to become an issue with you, though, then there’s a conversation that needs to be had with your wife. Good luck OP!