They told me they would rather see me with a Muslim person, even if he treats me bad, than a non Muslim, but a loving and a caring partner.

When someone shows you their true colors, believe them

My husband and I were together for a few years before we broke up and eventually got back together. (I'm an atheist who grew up in a Catholic family. His family is Muslim). He told me when he told the news to his family his dad was SO HAPPY. We got back together pretty quickly and married a couple years later but I'll never forget how they reacted. I realized they're so concerned with image and their reputation -and maybe hellfire- they would rather have their son heartbroken than marry a non-muslim

They showed me their true colors and it was a gift. 14 years later and we're still happily married. Do I love his family? Yes because without them he wouldn't be who he is. But I keep them at an arms length so they don't try to pile on the fear, obligation and guilt that comes with the enmeshment of a Muslim family (not all, of course)

I wish nothing but the best for you and your beloved. When it comes to everyone else just say fuck 'em. It's your life and you have to pay attention to what wants to be brought forth through you. It's a parent's work to let go of control over their children. Unfortunately there's a lot of adults walking around this earth but not a lot of grown ups