Nope, being quiet isn't a option. If you had been quiet the a-holes would have felt impowered to stretch the boundaries a little further next time. If it makes you feel better that little group is going to break apart quickly. Those people who did agree with you to begin with? They caved to peer pressure and joined the feud. Those same people though will start to avoid reasons to be with the others in that group. They will just be busy anytime a party is planned. Their too weak to stand up like you and your husband did for fear of getting the same fate as you. They will though find ways to avoid being placed in a situation like that again. The group fails and no one will understand "why" because no has the guts like you did to say, "It's because you're all assholes I choose not to be around." So all you really do was show who the real leaders are, it's you and your husband. You will have others hear about it and make slow advances to get to know you. Watch for these advances, they are the herd followers looking for a herd leader who they can respect. Good luck and you'll be fine in the future.