Maybe I'm naive, but we did work through this. We were at a point of divorce a few times, almost even separated. I love her and she she understands how collosal of a mistake this was. I can't say she won't ever so it again, and if she does, I'll leave for sure, but we have been married 7 years and she came want to me. I didn't find out. We have something that is worth fighting for and I believe she agrees. There isn't anything that is keeping her here or me except that we both still want to be together. The last couple of months have been great honestly. It's not like the affair never happened, but our openness has really gotten us to see the other person much more clearly. To me, it's something to keep trying for until it isn't. She's horrible for having the affairs she didn't think of anyone but herself, not me, not her kids, not our life built together, but I'm a believer in second chances. I love her enough to do that. I loved her and was so scared of losing her I even opened up our relationship... I figured she would leave if she wanted to. She has the money to go, it's not like she's not independent. So we'll keep working on our marriage until we or one of us decides it's too much. We've been through a lot prior to this with a child dying and she never blamed her actions on that unfortunate situation.