I'm sorry if this is out of place but I have an inverse question; I am a cis man and I have some very feminine features. I also have long hair which I usually wear in a pony tail. Sometimes strangers see me and think I'm a woman until I start speaking. This used to really bother me a lot and make me feel dysphoric but since spending time online in lgbtq spaces I've begun to realize that it's not really as big of a problem as I think. Do people attracted to men find it odd or off-putting if a cis dude may appear feminine at first glance? I'm not your typical skinny fem looking man, I'm 220 5'7. I'm okay if your answer is negative, just kind of want some input. I used to get somewhat offended when misgendered me but now I pretty much just laugh it off when people have that moment of realization.

I should probably make my own post/go to therapy but this was an adjacent enough thread I thought maybe I'd get some interesting input.