Rupture. Repair. Rinse. Repeat.

I believe this is part of my problem. Despite being a grown ass adult to tons of years behind me, I can’t say I have a lot of examples of healthy resolution of loss of trust in other relationships. I find myself desperately seeking that in this therapeutic relationship, but sense I may be more focused on how to do that than they are. Like for them it’s just “if I show up” the relationship is repaired? And for me it’s “I need to talk through the nuanced details of what/how/why it happened and where we go from here”?

I don’t know, I’m starting to think there actually is something mystical about the process. I mean why do some people find therapy helpful so easily and others of us struggle so intensely? There has to be something behind those large discrepancies.

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