you can reasonably expect to avoid most traffic incidents.

Your odds of dying in a car accident are 1 : 114. Your odds of dying in an airplane crash are 1 : 11,000,000. Thus, you're 100,000 times more likely to die in a car accident. If you only fly commercial the odds are even more in favor of flying.

Let's imagine you are the best driver on Earth and have the super power to see ten seconds into the future, thus you can avoid 99.9% of accidents. You're still 100 times more likely to die in an unavoidable car accident. (Which is actually lower than the odds of being run down as a pedestrian at this point.) If you only fly commercial the odds are even more in favor of flying.

But, hey, if you think control matters, you have a 1 : 7 chance of dying of heart disease. Sure, you can modify your risk factors by an order of magnitude, but that's still like a 1% chance of dropping dead from a random heart attack.

That said, fear of flying is a phobia. It's essentially the irrational fear of not being in control and of the unfamiliar. It's a symptom of watching the news too much so you have an inflated sense of danger.