Individual behavior does not happen in a vacuum. It doesn't have to be either society causing individual outcomes, or individuals. It can be both/and, or as Alan Watts would say, social contexts "gowith" individual behavior. To illustrate this, I'll tell you my story.
My Christian parents found out I was gay at 14, and immediately put me into conversion "therapy" which is a system of parental abuse by proxy. You are gaslighted into believing that you are fundamentally broken and must always be on guard against yourself. You are told that despite how okay with yourself you might have felt before coming to the center, you are actually sick. Your natural sexuality is a disgrace and will only lead to disaster for yourself and your family.
This went on for four years. I went back into the closet with my parents while still being halfway out at school, and learned to compartmentalize my life, showing only carefully curated aspects of myself to different people. Also, during this time (mid-late 00s) lgbt rights took a major blow with the wave of explicit marriage bans etc.
I cringed my way into college and, uprooted from my friends and faced with daunting unsureness over what I was doing in life, I finally fell into DEEP fucking depression. Also, my parents found out I was still gay after all and stopped helping me financially. I was going to school full time and working 50+ hour weeks. I slept three hours a day. It wasn't long until adderall found me.
The first time I took it, it was like a light bulb went off. Aha! This is how I'm supposed to feel! I can function again!
It wasn't long until I was snorting one 30mg pill and putting another in my pocket for later.
Eventually, through my equally hurting and misguided gay friends, meth found me. At first it was like adderall but just more hedonistic and self centered in its focus. It felt good. The parties I was going to were debauched and fun. An artsy, silly, amp-fueled subculture I had just stumbled into. At least, that's how it seemed to me at first.
I had my first shot, and that's when things really got going. I became addicted. Driven into madness. Dunno if you know this but there is a sexual culture around meth among gay men. When you're high, your standards and limits all go out the window. You do things you would never do otherwise. Now I'm recovered but will always have my infection.
Looking back, and through years of therapy (real therapy), I can draw a straight line between my experience as a teen and my total implosion as a young adult. Could I have strapped on a condom? Fucking yes. Is it my fault that I had a massive breakdown as a result of my long and terrible experience with oppression? Fucking no.
But don't take my word for it. The APA(https://www.apa.org/pi/aids/resources/exchange/2012/04/discrimination-homophobia.aspx) acknowledges that the stressors of homophobia create depressive, addictive, and risky mindsets in gay men.
BTW, despite all the evidence that conversion therapy not only does not work but actually harms people, it is still legal where I am. Kids are still being abused in the very same room I sat all those years ago. There's your fucking societal context.