It’s often said that when men wear a wedding ring they get more attention from women. Do you think they are actually flirting or perhaps they now consider you “safe” and can be friendly/friends without worrying about being hit on themselves?

Yup. I have a close female friend, in her 40s, who has confided in me to at least four flings (two short term, two 3+ years) with married men since her early thirties. One of them while she was married herself (she has since divorced). She has been masterful at keeping the affairs under wraps (with the exception of the longest one, when the guy confessed after his wife called him out on her suspicions).

Thing is, she comes off as a very confident, empowered woman. Shes very attractive (frankly, she naturally oozes sexuality). She's a successful professor at a well known, highly respected university, and is also the director of a national non-profit with the name of a very well known (long since dead) philanthropist attached to it. Yet, she needs constant reassurance and attention from men, and clearly revels in the fact that she can get the affection of a married man. (When, in reality, lets face it — it's not that hard to do.) I've called her out on it, as recently as a few months ago, and she vehemently denies that she's drawn towards married men. She simply can't bring herself to see it for what it is.

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