My wife had an emotional affair 4 years ago. At the time, we'd been married for 7 years and had 2 beautiful girls. At the time, one girl was 4, and the other girl was 1. My wife decided to find her ex-boyfriend on facebook and get in touch with him. She didn't talk to me before she did that, and the next thing I knew is they became quite close friends and would talk for hours every day on facebook. He told her to take the children and leave me. She told him that she still loves him, but can't. They talked and talked and talked. I told her to stop talking to him. She told me that she loves him and let me know that she prefers him to me, but she doesn't want to ruin the children's lives. I drank and smoked and went crazy for 3 months, until I found that she was secretly planning a trip to meet up with him, while taking my 4 year old daughter with her. That night, I told her that if she went to him, there will be absolutely no coming back to me. I will divorce her. I will fight her for custody of the children. I will let everyone know it's her fault. I will sell the house. etc etc etc. And I meant it. So she cried and told him how much she loves him but she can't lose everything. A few weeks later, she told me that she wants to sleep in her own bedroom and doesn't want to have sex anymore. It's been 4 years now since we had sex or been in any way intimate. I'm only staying for the sake of the children, and she is only staying for them also. One day when the children are older, she will find out how hard life can be when there is no one to pay all her bills. I have often wished that I had never met her, but if I hadn't met her, then I wouldn't have the 2 beautiful children that I have today. I hope that your story has a better ending than mine.