Sanity check needed – my (late 20sF) bf (mid 20sM) claims I'm being controlling

my texts (following "hey, i'm home" "hey") were literally
"could you please text me next time if plans change/movies run a bit late? :P"
("how does no sound... ")
"i'm not asking you to.. i was just asking if it would be ok to just send me one line (if we'd previously mentioned calling that night) that calls are off"
("I shouldn't have to...")
"I'm gonna sleep, gnight (hug) Sorry if I annoyed you, I hope you had a fun night"
("Every f*cking time...")
"all i meant was "hey, is there a chance of a text in X scenario?" (aka a heads up if i should wait for you or go to sleep if you're gonna be busy doing your own stuff) - which you said no to, and you've explained why . Ok, that is fine. I didn't mean it as a big deal or as an implication that I have anything against you doing stuff on your own. I was just asking. Seriously. And I really don't want this to turn into an argument because it's sincerely not what I was saying. "
and then he said I obviously had an issue with him doing stuff and stopped talking to me.

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