I have a... uhm.. theory... that I've been keeping in mind when I talk to people who identify as asexual. The theory is that these people who claim to be asexual, have had a deep scarring experience in their formative years that was either physical or psychological (or both) which completely turned them off to any kind of romantic entanglements/connections.

So far, my theory has been pretty accurate. I've met a fair number of asexual people... Anyways, the most common thing I heard from these people who are ace is that they've experienced some kind of physical and emotional deep scarring event in their formative years that turned them off to people and the idea of normal relationships.

Each person I talked to and became friends with, would tell me that they had some kind of serious abuse in their life that made them feel like they were unable to pursue a normal relationship.

This leads me to my theory that people who identify themselves as "Asexual" do it as a kind of psychological protective response so that they don't find themselves in a position where being with someone reminds them of that pain and whatever else happened.

It sucks that it happened to them, but that's what I have slowly and have generally consistently found with most people who identify as asexual.

I believe and support many different types of sexuality, but personally, the idea of asexuality has always been a bit of a difficult thing for me to accept because it goes against the very nature of our drive as human beings which is to have sex and ultimately have babies.