Ok, so...I'm a trans woman and right now I am at least a few years away from getting gender reassignment surgery.
Since I'm stuck with the current configuration I have for the foreseeable future, I have to deal with the fact that it's not as big as I would like. As in, it's kind of small. And you know what? That bothers me. A lot. I've broken down sobbing about it. I've looked at myself with disgust. I've felt HORRIBLE about what I have. I can feel myself starting to get teary eyed just talking about this.
I come to this sub because it's supposed to be a safe space where everyone, INCLUDING trans women are supposed to feel welcome. But I don't feel very welcome here when I see stuff like this. Every time I see small penis jokes here, ESPECIALLY when they're getting tons of upvotes, it makes me feel horrible. Sometimes it makes me angry, sometimes it makes me sad, sometimes both. People who participate in that are actively shaming people that frequent this sub, both men and women. I am a regular, active, contributing member of this community and I frequently see people shaming me. I shouldn't have to feel that way. I shouldn't feel like Troll X is a place where I have to worry about people shaming me for my body. And yet I do. I also see fat shaming on occasion and guess what? That gets upvoted, too. And I'm fat, so guess how that makes me feel?
I love this sub, I really do. There are a lot of really wonderful, accepting people on here. But that doesn't mean I'm going to give people a pass for body shaming. It is NEVER ok. It's not ok to body shame penises, it's not ok to body shame people for being fat. Ever. I don't care if the person "really, really" deserved it. I don't deserve it. Guys from Troll Y who come over here to chat with us don't deserve that. Trans women don't deserve that. Overweight women, cis and trans, don't deserve that. You can twist yourself into knots trying to justify it but at the end of the day there are real people you're hurting. Not hypothetically but in reality. And I am one of them. I don't deserve to be body shamed. I never, EVER body shame anyone for anything ever. I should be able to come to Troll X and feel safe. We pride ourselves on that. But we're not living up to what we are trying to do here. And it makes me sad and I'm still debating whether or not to stick around.