I've been doing a lot of internal healing and growth to move forward to a better, happier, more stable place for myself. I had a realization that seems so simple now. But, I hadn't been able to think about it quite like this. So, I'm sharing it, in case it helps anyone else in their own thinking and experiences. I realized that my boyfriend's behavior of objectifying women, and ways he treated me surrounding that are his issue and his flaw. He's too old to behave that way. And I can't let that pull me back into a younger way of thinking. I shouldn't let his flaw impact my well being. So, I'm not going to let it impact me personally that way. But, I also shouldn't have to put up with it, either. I can tell him my boundaries. I can tell him to stop. And if that doesn't work, and if he gets angry, or hurtful, or just won't stop... then I will have to break up with him if it's causing me to feel unhappy. I know that at some point we will likely break up because I'm probably not going to want to stay with him. It was hard to accept that. I do really love him, and there is so much good. But, I'm going to try to forgive, give him another chance (it's come up for me again because of him excessively commenting on a waitress every time again). Right now isn't a time for breaking up. I'm going to enjoy what we have. But, I know that there is better for me out there, and I won't stay if I continue to feel badly. He's going to have to choose to either have me in his life and stop the excessive comments, or he can make all the comments he wants and not have me in his life. But, I also know how much he loves me, how incredibly attracted he is to me, how much he values me inside and out, and how good he is to me in the ways that he is good. I also know he's human. So am I. He has flaws. I have flaws too.