Seeing pretty girls bums me out

Actually, as an attractive woman, everyone male freaks me out. I'm not trying to say "oh poor me I'm pretty and I'm oppressed." Still, please don’t stare. Pretty women have a lot of bad experiences (or they will) and paranoia is prudence.

Personally, I'm not judging anyone over their looks or relationship status. Appearance doesn't mean shit. I’m on this subreddit too, I feel horrible too. I don’t think I’ve ever made it a week without crying. Most of April and May so far I don’t want to die (woohoo!) but still, I’d rather be ugly and sane. Side note: You also probably want an ugly but sane SO, as my exes (and Taylor Swift’s) will tell you.

For the record, I have dated people of EVERY level of attractiveness, 1-10. I don't want a fucking medal or anything. Everyone I dated was damn smart and funny, no charity cases. Actually, funny story about a guy I rejected: we went on a date, we were having a good time, then he mentioned he ran a sports twitter and showed it to me. It was pretty popular. And so I said we were never going to work. This guy was CRUSHED but obvs there's nothing wrong with loving sports. I just hate sports to an unreasonable degree because of my own quirks and experiences. Just because someone rejects you doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. Maybe the girl is just extremely weird about sports. Maybe she's rejecting you for your looks and she's an IDIOT who's going to end up with a guy who cares more about his butt than his brain. Her freaking loss. I’m not telling you to hate women. I’m saying we’re real people; don’t put us on pedestals. Not even the pretty ones.

Don't give up just yet. I am darned pretty and I still get rejected the vast majority of the time when I ask people out. But that’s fine. Please try to separate liking yourself from getting a date. Getting a date is super fun and cool, yes (if you’re capable of feeling happiness at all). But your brain will always find a reason to hate yourself unless you fight self-esteem issues head-on. You can do it!

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