Sorry I'm a week late on this but I just stumbled upon the post. Just so you know who this is coming from, I'm a 34 year old white male in reasonably good shape (save the cis scum privilege bullshit) . I've grown up in a lower/middle class suburb of Chicago and have been friends with, dated, hung out with and worked with pretty much any race or nationality that you'd see on the census reports. I'm sorry that you've had issues with someone & you believe it to be race related. We live in a time that people shouldn't have to deal with that anymore. That being said, you'll always find someone who just isn't going to like you because of some bullshit reason: Race, sexual orientation, religion, apparently skin tone. Having grown up being white in an area where white is most certainly the minority, I've seen different cultures act differently towards each other, but I wouldn't think it to be racist. To put it plainly, just cultural differences. I've never heard anything negative about black women due to a darker skin tone. (I've always found it to be alluring & exotic myself) However I've heard black people talk down about "light skinned" people, but never the other way around. Are you sure this mixed race woman even cares about your skin tone? Women seem to be fairly untrusting of other women, regardless of skin tone. If she has a problem with you and her reasoning is "she's too dark", that sounds like bullshit to me. I'd bet she is either jealous of you in some way or she feels you threatened by you. But I'm not feeling like this is race related. Unless of course you live in a way backwoods redneck location, then I got nothing.... those people confuse me. Anyhow, hope all works out for you with this person. Just remember, if someone doesn't like the person you are, fuck em, they're not worth the time & effort.