[Serious] Asexuals of Reddit, when did you come to the conclusion that sex simply doesn’t appeal to you and that you should stop pretending that it does?

Im asexual because I choose to be. I still feel sexual attractions but I gave up pursuing them and I am at peace with being an asexual being.

So many times I worked up the nerve to tell a girl I was interested/ask her out only to be met with reactions ranging from disgust to pity to completely ignoring me as if I hadn’t spoken. I don’t have trouble taking to girls or being friendly with them but I’ve grown used to the “oh, he likes me that way” expression which is usually followed by one of the aforementioned reactions. So I’ve given up. Sex/dating is not for me.

I’m not an incel, I blame myself and there’s no mystery why I have had less than zero success in that department. I mean I think men are treated as sex objects as much as women are and I believe the dating scene is heavily slanted in favor of women but I’m not angry or resentful towards women for this, these are just facts and at the end of the day it’s my own fault.

So I’ve restructured my self image around not being with someone, it’s hard when society often considers your sex/dating life a large measure of your worth as a person, being single is less desirable than being with someone. I no longer strive after romance or sex because I’ve accepted my lot that I will probably die a virgin and that fact no longer bothers me, it is what is.

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