[Serious] Autistic people of Reddit, what's a question you've always had about social situations/unwritten rules? Neurotypical people, what are the answers?

Seconding don't tell unless asked. I had a friend who was nervous in social situations, but the second he made what he considered a bad mistake (usually something small like not understanding something he was asked), he would immediately start saying "sorry, x was because I was autistic and I have trouble doing y". Usually that just sort of... derailed people view of him? Like instead of being just a guy, who maybe stumbled on his words a little, to everyone he met his first impression was the awkward autistic guy who keeps mentioning how autistic he is and that would colour their view of him forever. I'm also very far from neurotipical, and ive found for the most part you don't need to excuse yourself all the time as long as youre doing your best to be decent and accomodate normal social standards or work with them where you have troubke. a lot of people are weird in some way. The reason is usually not relevant to most situations. If you're working with people and you, say, need people to give very specific instructions, you can just say 'sorry, could you give me super specific instructions, it would be a big help' which is a perfectly normal request without appending explanatory information about your mental health, which is quite personal information and can make people uncomfortable (and potentially judgemental, unfortunately) outside of situations where talking about it is directly relevant.

/r/AskReddit Thread Parent