NOT CURRENTLY CHEATING!

There, got that out of the way.

Our daughter was almost two years old and we'd been married a month. Our first argument ended with me having a black eye. My boss took me to one side and asked if I needed help but I just smiled and said my daughter had hit me in the face with a toy car and I was good. He didn't believe me.

My husband would come home from work every night and his dinner had to be on the table within half an hour or he'd be pissed off. If it was a night I was working he'd drive me there, if it was a night off he would go to his mates.

I was miserable. My boss made an effort to cheer me up every night and started to give me lifts home each night so I wasn't walking the hour home in the dark.

There were more bruises and one night after taking me home my boss stopped me as I went to leave the car. "You're worth more than this you know".

My husband and I went to RELATE. Apparently I needed to be more attentive to his needs yet to give him space so he didn't have to deal with our daughter as soon as he came home. It was suggested by my husband that work was a problem and I stupidly agreed that it may be but we needed the money so I agreed to cut my hours.

I asked for a department change and got it. On the ride home my boss pulled over and told me he thought I was making the wrong choice and then... I have no idea how it started but the first kiss led to so much more and I felt wanted for once.

I'm not a habitual cheater though and I felt too guilty to keep quiet.

I told my husband and the divorce papers were with me within a week. His new girlfriend arrived 2 weeks after that

On the flipside I felt a lot less guilty when he drunkenly phoned me and told me he'd been seeing his new girlfriend since before we were married he just felt tied to the fact he'd been stupid enough to breed with me.