I cut ties with my father the day after Christmas last year. There have been multiple times in my life where I have cut him out, but this time is for good. He is a very manipulative and selfish person. He married my mom when they were 18 years old and he continuously cheated on her for the 8 years they were married. The day she was in labor with me, he was out in the hallway on the phone with the woman he was cheating on her with. He missed my birth. He eventually married that woman and she threw that in my face when I was about 6 years old. That pretty much set up how our relationship would be the rest of my life. He just never cared about me or tried to be involved. He left my mom when I was 3 months old. My mom had a newborn, a 2 year old and a 5 year old to raise all on her own. He refused to help her financially. She was literally missing meals to make sure we were fed. She worked 3 jobs and relied on daycare/family/friends to help take care of us. Eventually my dad came back around when I was about 1 and fought for split custody and begrudgingly agreed to pay my mom child support. My dad is extremely wealthy btw. He eventually had a 4th child with his second wife. Currently he is married for a 4th time and has a 7 year old stepson. My dad has always just treated me like I was a burden. I would try to reach out to have a relationship and it would take him weeks to even return a phone call or text message. He always made it clear he preferred my older sister and younger sister to me and my brother. My brother doesn't have a relationship with him either. When he was getting ready to marry his current wife they had a website for people to look at pictures and find their registry. I looked at the website and it was all pictures of him and his soon to be stepson and my two older sisters. No trace of my brother or I. Long story short the straw that broke the camels back was when I was living in Thailand last year and got extremely ill. I had to come home. I reached out to my dad and asked him for help purchasing a last minute ticket. No way could my mom afford it. He surprisingly agreed to it and said it would be my Christmas present. He emails me and says he booked me a flight on Delta for December 21. We agreed I would fly in to San Diego rather than my hometown, because my mother and stepdad were already there to spend the holidays with my brother. Also, my boyfriend lives in San Diego. My dad was completely okay with this seeing as I had not spent a Christmas with him in years, so it wasn't like he would be missing out on spending the holidays with me. December 20th I called Delta just to confirm everything and they inform me that someone had called and canceled my ticket. I freaked out! I was supposed to be leaving by the 21st before my visa expired. I keep trying to contact my dad and I am not getting any response. Finally 12 hours before my flight is supposed to leave he texts me that he booked me another flight and I can pay him back when I get home. What? He said it was Christmas present. Anyways, I ignored it and just focused on getting home and then I would figure out how to pay him back. I get to SD and my family picks me up. I text my dad and let him know I am back. No response. Christmas Day comes and I text him "Merry Christmas!". No response. On Christmas Eve I posted a picture with my boyfriend on Facebook. on December 26th, my dad sends me a screenshot of this FB post and says "You didn't have to lie to me. Have a good life." I text back, "What did I lie about?". He replies, "I am not mad. Just disappointed." WHAT?! I had no idea what he was talking about. I assumed he was drunk. He has always had a drinking problem for as long as I can remember. I tried calling him and he wouldn't answer. I tried texting him and he wouldn't respond. I go look on Facebook and see that he has completely blocked me on Facebook. He blocked my number too. I was so confused. To this day I still have no idea what he claims I was lying about. I guess you could say technically my dad cut ties with me, but I have cut ties in the sense that I will never speak with him again. When he decides to unblock me and I know he will, I will not respond. That whole day just summed up our relationship for the past 23 years. He's always treated me terribly and ignored my attempts to have a relationship. There is obviously a lot more to the story, but frankly I could never write out exactly what has happened between my father and I, because there is enough to fill a novel. I honestly am trying very hard to forget everything. It still crushes me the way he just cut off contact and kicked me out of his life and I will never know why. I try not to let it get to me, but sometimes I just break down when I see my sisters posting pictures of them skiing together, hiking together, etc. My dad never loved my brother and I the way he loves them. It definitely rips me up inside. He is toxic and I know I am better off, but it still kills me to think about that last text message from him, "have a good life".