I don't have herpes, as far as I know. But I know that most people who are positive don't know they have it... so maybe I'm one of them. Either way, thought I'd give you a perspective of someone who (apparently) doesn't have it.

I've had multiple dates disclose to me that they had HSV2. In the cases when I didn't see any real long-term relationship potential, I ended up apologizing for my decision, but walking away. But honestly, if we'd continued to date, I think I would have walked away at some point anyway.

However, my current boyfriend disclosed his HSV on our first date (after many hours of phone conversation). We both felt like there was significant long-term potential. I decided that being with him was more important than the risk of contracting it. After all, clinically it's nothing more than a cold-sore... it's only the social stigma that is an issue.

The dates who are wrong for you will walk away. The dates who are more likely to be right for you will want you regardless of this inconvenience.