[Serious] Guys who can get hot girls easily, how do you do it?

I was the ultimate wingman for most of college. Despite being told I was cute (and knowing I had killer dimples) I didn't have the confidence to go for the hot chicks so I'd go for the grenades automatically. And was successful to the point where my confidence naturally grew.

A couple months before I met my wife I started experimenting. When I'd go out to the bar with some friends I wouldn't automatically go for the mediocre-to-ugly friends, I wouldn't go for anyone. I'd act as if none of the women in the place mattered to me in the slightest and they were an inconvenience to me and I was bored beyond belief.

For example, the very first night I tried this I was walking through the bar and passed by this hot woman who I'd had a crush on since sharing History 101 with her the first semester of freshman year together. Even though we'd run in similar social circles together for the last four years, I don't think she'd ever acknowledged my existence. So I was walking by her and we made eye contact and instead of smiling or looking away quickly or any of that jazz, I gave her the critical once-over and then did a slight eye roll. I gave the impression, "don't waste my fucking time."

Literally five minutes later she comes up to me at while I'm ordering a drink at the bar and introduces herself and starts making small talk. We'd been in the same quad parties together, had shared more than a couple joints in said parties, but this was the first time she'd ever spoken to me directly and I can't help but think it was because in those couple seconds of non-verbal contact, I came across as a dick.

I didn't do anything more than talk to her that night, partly because I hadn't had any booze in me to make me more charming yet and she still intimidated me. I did manage to score with arguably an 8 and a 9 before I met my wife (who I'd put as a 7.5).

Being attractive or wealthy or a good athlete or super charming/funny is what will make it easy. If you don't have enough of any of those to do it, you have to work at it. And the way that worked best for me, personally, was throwing out the aura that you're too good.

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