Yeah, most women definitely want sex. They want it on their own terms, which may or may not include doing it with you. If you approach a woman because you're interested in her you're basically conducting a fact finding expedition to discover her individual terms and whether or not they are compatible with yours.

A different woman than me will have a different opinion, but personally I know right away if I'm ever going to have sex with a man. The kind of man who can evoke that ancient, visceral femininity within me is not the type to pretend he's only interested in me as a neutral person. He is interested in my total being, and he is first and foremost approaching me as a man to a woman. That doesn't mean we jump straight into having sex right away, we don't, but we know immediately where this is going if I allow it.

My ex was my friend for three years first. He never treated me like a woman. We had this lukewarm year and a half that made me think I didn't even really like sex. Then I met my current SO. The man I'm with now kissed me half an hour after we met and I couldn't believe it, nobody had ever kissed me like that before. I wasn't sure if I should punch him or what. He never wanted to be my friend, and he said so. He didn't need a friend, he needed a lover. He told me on our first date that he wanted a long term, serious relationship. We had sex on our third date because I knew I could be there for him. We've been together four years now. We have friendship, we have plenty in common intellectually, but that's not why we are lovers. We're lovers because we have this much deeper, ancient connection.

There's a big difference between having sex with a friend and having sex with a lover. Friends are just people, I see them in basically a sexually neutral way. To me a lover is not just a neutral person, he is a man. He's the only man who is really a man to me...