I talk about it. I openly tell people that I am a domestic abuse survivor. I talk about how she manipulated me into becoming estranged from my family, and then slowly cut me off from having any friends. How she mentally abused me and made me think nothing I did was good enough.

I talk about how she said the reason she had multiple affairs was because I was too devoted a father and didn't focus on her enough. Then when in would try to focus more on her, she said she cheated because I was too clingy or needy.

I tell them how I was cut for coming home late from work one night - because it meant she has to delay her plans. If they don't believe me about it, I show them the multiple scars I have from that and other incidences (thrown glasses, pots, etc).

When I finally hear "you must have done something to deserve it" (and men do hear that when they speak up), I look them in the eye and ask them if they would say that to their son / brother / father if they said they were being abused? Would they say the same thing to their female relatives?

My outcome was a walk in the park, comparatively speaking....

One former coworker eventually admitted he was being abused and got out of the relationship. She stalked him and eventually accused him of raping her at a party one night.

Even though the charges were dropped after it became readily apparent she was lying, he had already lost his job because of it. Depression set in after most of his friends (that were shared friends of hers) abandoned him due to the rape accusation and he ended up committing suicide.