[Serious][NSFW] Tell us something brutally honest that you feel, no matter how mean or socially frowned upon?

it's funny - my wife and I make 170k combined. We're educated, live in a nice neighborhood, i quit smoking 5 years ago, we're physically fit (ish), we read, we only drink socially, haven't touched drugs in 10 years, have zero legal records, have college degrees, have a nice house in a nice neighborhood.

and while part of us (more me) resists having a kid b/c it closes the door on a lot of possible debauchery (we're kinky.. but.. we'd reel it in for a family), we have over-thought this having a kid thing over and over and over. I've been so scared to the point of analysis paralysis. I'm well aware the #1 person that fucked up everyone is, often, their parents. I know how much mine fucked me up. I look at how utterly ignorant, ruled by their emotions, their political extremism, their small mindedness, my folks were, how abusive my wife's father was, how even good parents can say fucked up shit they don't give a second thought to but it affects a kid FOREVER....and i just get so freaked out by the abundance of responsibility that it is.

And then i see my trashy, willfully ignorant sister who's married to a guy who barely makes 25k a year and spends half of that on his tattoos, and they are having conception difficulties, but they've been trying for 5+ years.

Time and again - the people who shouldn't have kids at all act as if it's just hte natural progression of their lives. You get married, you have babies. It's like they crave it. They sit and ponder all the "when i'm a parent i'mma do this or i'mma do that, i'll punish them this way, i'll teach them this, i'll buy them that" but a lot of the deeper questions, the uncertainty i seem to have, the fear of fucking someone up - it's almost not there. They never show it. It's just this animal rush to reproduce without second thought. They barely have their own lives put together and they want a baby! Yeah, that'll make it better!

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