The worst position to be in within a family structure is the provider

One of the reasons society is falling apart is that it has created the expectation of the masculine provider-- not to put those words in your mouth, since I know you didn't gender your statement, but it is traditionally a man who has that obligation... though in today's world it often falls on both parents-- while, at the same time, moving toward a service-sector economy where one earns a living on likeability rather than objective merit. That incongruity manifests in all kinds of bizarre ways; it's a disaster.

I'm a leftist, so I support gender nonconformists of all stripes... but I'm also a realist about human nature who recognizes that 85% of people still believe in traditional gender roles. If you tell men that to "be men" they must provide, but remove all opportunities to do so except for people-pleasing (because it is a constant of societies that men who live on reputation rather than their skills are despised) you are setting up a time bomb.