[Serious] People who had an affair that ended without you being found out, what happened? How do you feel about your SO/ex-affair partner now?

I met a girl, in college. We seemed to be into the same things at the time; watching movies, smoking weed, and having sex. She was a couple years older than me and had much more sexual experience. When we met, I was still a virgin, and by the time we started dating I had only recently lost that virginity (not to her, but another girl I fooled around with one summer vacay). We ended up having a long distance relationship for 14 years. We lived about 2.5 hours apart, and saw each other maybe once every month or two. After a few years it frustrated me. It turns out I thrive on close intimate contact. And I filled that need by filling other holes, if you get my meaning. The first time was a much older girl. Almost twice my age at the time. And she was my mother's best friend. She was always at our house on the weekends. And one day, after my parents went to sleep she wanted to dance. And as we danced she was grinding up against me. After we finally got tired of dancing and sat down, I reached over between her legs and did the ol Trump manuver; although back then it wasn't called the Trump manuver, it was just a hail mary sex move. Of course it worked. We fucked a few more times after that night. And, a few years later she committed suicide. After her was a chick I met online. She was older, but kinda fat, but a pretty face. She was just a booty call. I'd send her a text along the lines of "show me what you got" and she'd reply with a spread that would always get me to her place. She eventually moved. Next I met a walmart manager. She, again (this had been kind of a theme) was older. And it was kind of fun at first, but she wanted to get married and have kids....so I noped out of there. Then, I met (hehehe) another older woman; a black flight attendant for United. She struck up a conversation with me, but kept it all about my work, her work, etc. And at the end she wanted my number, "just to talk later". And we talked a few times after. But then I eventually just told her "look, I get that you are interested, let's fuck" and we did. But then she was like "I really want kids" So, again, I booked passage on the Nope Train. Then I met a girl who was so beautiful that I ended my long distance relationship. I was with that girl for 3 years and she did to me what I had always done. And there I was being faithful this time, lol! So we split up. Now I'm with a girl almost my same age. She thinks so much like me about everything. We don't speak the same language, but it really just makes things more direct and interesting. I think I'm going to marry this one. My long distance SO/ex and I still talk every few days. She knows what I did because I eventually told her. And it really kinda sucks, because she was pregnant, unbeknownst to me at the time, when we broke up. She miscarried. I feel terrible about the person I was and what I did to her, and it took me being cheated on myself to realize what a ass/fool I had been. And I'm grateful that she still speaks to me, because she was always a good friend, and she knows me better than I know myself. But, with all this in the past, I think I'm ready to give this new relationship my best. Now if only I can convince my racist family to chill...fuck.

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