[Serious] People who stopped talking to a very close friend, what was the reason?

Argh late to the party again!!! I can think of two friends who have impacted my views on friendship and what it means to be a friend.

 

The one that hurt:

We were friends through high school. We went to different universities but met up once in a while. A few months after I started losing weight, I got mean anonymous messages on my blog telling me I was ugly and looked like a skeleton and calling me a wannabe. I took no offence to the remarks because it was obviously the bitter words of a jealous person. However, I WAS surprised because my blog was only known to a small circle of people and I wasn't someone "popular", so what was this person's beef with me? I tracked the IP address and my suspicions were confirmed - it was my 'good friend' who had been posting under different names. She even held conversations with herself i.e. posting as herself and as another person, but all coming from the same IP address and that's how I knew.

 

She's got money, she's pretty and she's got tons of friends. And there was little me, introvert who pretty much spent time between school and chilling in my apartment. After a few attempts I made to reach out to her (yes, even after I discovered she had been badmouthing me to her boyfriend and some of our mutual acquaintances), I finally woke up and realised, I don't want her in my life.

 

The one that was an almost immediate relief to end:

She was a new friend. She was fun and always up to party. The one year I hung out with her, she brought me out of my introvert zone for new experiences. It was great.

 

She often showed my picture to people and asked them if they thought I was pretty - then she would text me to let me know what they said. While she never passed me any bad feedback, I felt a little odd/violated that my photo was being handed out for valuation by her.

 

There was another time she stopped talking to me a whole night we were out at a party even though I was by her side the whole time. I was upset and kept asking her whether I said anything wrong. Finally she said that she was jealous that I was getting boy attention.

 

She often asked me out to party but being an introvert, I frequently said no. When I said no, she would tell me I'm letting her down. She would also force me to drink alcohol when I adamantly refused. She kept changing my drinks to a stronger one while I wasn't looking and when I puked at the end of the night, she cheered and said she accomplished her goal of the night and proudly said she had been adding alcohol to my drinks the entire night. She also did this on my birthday.

 

One of the last straws was when we were on holiday together. She put down my boobs in front of a whole group of people and said that she likes her own boobs better. I laughed along at that time, but in my mind I just suddenly realised...she's not the right friend for me. I am constantly exhausted around her. She's always raising something to compete about, and it riles me up. So I let the friendship drop.

  TLDR: First friend got jealous and anonymously sent me hate messages. Second friend was a overly competitive and I felt tired trying to understand her random bizarre behaviour - I'm sorry but I don't think we are suited for each other.

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