Just made this throwaway to say that while I haven't cheated, I am considering it. I have been married 3 years, and in that time my wife has lost all interest in sex. She barely gets wet anymore and she admits she doesn't enjoy it. Now you may think I'm a shitty lay, but I have had AMAZING sex with my ex gf of 7 years before she (probably) cheated on me and I dumped her. I know exactly how great sex can be for both of us, but it just can't happen. The hard part is I love my wife, and she's extremely beautiful, smart, funny, and fun to spend time with... but when it comes to sex we just don't have a connection. Meanwhile with my ex, we fought all the time but had mind blowing sex. I feel like I have the capacity to cheat because I miss that so much... I miss awesome, wild sex... I'm basically jerking off more now at 29 than ever before because I haven't gone without sex for such long periods of time since I was 15. She tries, doen't get me wrong... but when sex doesn't feel good for her... and she can't get wet... what else can I do? Oral feels weird, penetration hurts, manual stim does nothing... I've said to go see a doc/gyno about it but it hasn't happened. Having sex with someone who gets nothing out of it completely ruins it for me. I'm in good shape and take care of myself, so it's not that. I really think she's just not a sexual person... meanwhile my ex would cum 4-5 times every fucking night and initiate sex more than I did. If I cheated I could get the sex I need so I don't start to resent the woman I love for depriving me of it. Women hit on me at the bars - a few nights ago one st on my lap and asked me to go out to her car - and I flash the ring and say "happily married" knowing full well one of them could be the sexual goddess I need to keep my sanity... I can't keep that up forever.