[Serious] Redditors who felt like they would never ever find a romantic partner and then did: what advice would you give to those who feel the same way now?

This is going to be long but maybe worth the read.

First of all just because you find a romantic partner doesn't mean they'll always be "the one". I met a girl my freshman year of college who pretty much changed my life (she was one grade below me). I had just gotten out of a bad break up with my ex of the time. We dated for almost 2 years so we had the whole "high school lovers" thing going. Well then I found out she was pretty much cheating on me. It broke me completely. I started drinking a lot to try and cover it up. I was in college so getting hammered every night did not seem like a problem to anyone. Let me be the first to say- drinking while depressed makes it 10x worse when sober. I couldn't believe I was in "love" with someone who would do that. SO fast forward a few months. I by chance meet this girl, complete luck. We hit it off right away. Now I am a little shy, I am not one to make a move or anything like that. After our first date she was getting into her car and we both just kind of stared at each other after saying goodbye and she dead ass looked me in the eye and said "I can already tell you're shy, just kiss me already" so ya. Well few weeks later we were talking about dating. Now at this time while I was talking and taking her on dates I also told her about my ex and the things that happened and how it really messed me up. She kind of knew some of my close friends who I had been getting hammered and partying with so she knew about the all of the drinking but I did not know she knew. I finally asked her if she wanted to be official and she said "of course but only if you can slow the drinking down." She damn near saved my life from suicide and other incredibly depressing things. I changed my habits and cut back. Everything about her made me want to make her proud. I studied more in school to get better grades, I worked more hours during the week to be able to take her out and do things. At one point I was going to my college classes from 8-2 then working 3-11 and then coming home to study till 4 am. Every. Damn. Night. She gave me more confidence in myself than anyone ever had. I truly was in love with the girl and thought at one point "this is the one". The "love" from my ex that cheated was not love, I was just young and horny (still am). I knew it was real and it felt so good. Love isn't just a feeling. It's how you act, how you treat someone, and how they make you a better person. We ended up breaking up. Things just randomly died off. Literally one day it was fine and the next day we hungout and it was gone. It crushed us both, we had no idea why or what was going on. I am not a crier, but I bawled like a baby to my mom on the phone. We had a couple in person conversations after we broke up. Have not talked to her since. To this day (year later) I am still in love with her but not in the same way. If she called me at 2 am and needed a ride I would be there in a heartbeat. I would still do anything for her. NOW if you feel like you will never meet someone you are wrong. You will. Whatever you do be happy, don't be in a relationship that feels like its more of a job than anything else. Don't let it be forced. And once you have something you feel is right, treat him or her like gold. Make sure they are the first thing you think about when you wake up in the morning.

End rant sorry

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