3. [Serious] Redditors who were/are in a relationship where you are unsure if you'r...

[Serious] Redditors who were/are in a relationship where you are unsure if you're with the "right one", what did you do and how did you convince/motivate yourself to make that decision?

Wow. Okay, so first, thank you for taking the time to share of this.

I am curious as to why you say he's a "great guy" when much of how you described him wasn't so great? I mean, I'm sure it is most likely because you are highlighting the issues in the scope of my question? I find it interesting you said you were already contemplating breaking up and even when it came up, you gave him more chances and said you would think about it when you panicked.

My situation is a little similar and a little different. The guy I'm with is a lot of.. well, he's fun. I like spending time with him and we, for the most part, get along pretty well. We have differences though. He isn't exactly the type of guy that I see myself ending up with, he doesn't really have his shit together and isn't really that motivated to have/start a family. I don't think he wants it and it's a value that I've always thought I had, among other values. Being with him makes me contemplate whether my original values are still valid or if I can change them to be happy with him.

I think I'm coming to the realisation that it's not going to work out in the long run. Part of me wants it to, but I think deep down I know he's not right for me. To make things even more complicated, we have a mutual friend who I am pretty interested in and I know he is interested in me and we DO have the same values. It makes me feel like shit having to decide between my boyfriend and dating another guy. I think I realised though, that if I'm having so much trouble deciding if I would be happier with this other guy, then it's not meant to work out with the guy I'm dating and I should try to move on.

My problem is that I can't make myself "get on with it". I think the risk of losing some happiness in hopes of gaining the "real deal" happiness scares me to the point of just not doing anything :/

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