[Serious] To those of you who were in a Serious Relationship and were Cheated on for the first time: How did it change you as a person? Did it continue to affect how you behaved in future relationships?

A year ago in December (so right before we would have entered 2014) I was in a relationship for just over a year with a very attractive girl. She would constantly get attention from other men at the University we went to but I was always so impressed and happy with how she only had eyes for me, brushed other guys off, etc. and constantly made me feel loved and appreciated, which is always nice obviously.

December comes and things between her and I get a little rocky (my Grandfather passed away unfortunately) and I was having trouble coping with it which lead to frustration on both of our parts. Dates, conversations, even sex just wasn't the same anymore and things were boiling over. 2 days before New Years she says we need to go on a break so she can "do some soul searching" and have a breather, which I hesitantly agreed to. 2 weeks go by and she calls me crying, saying that she had sex with another guy over the break and she feels terrible. Couple that with the mourning of my grandfather and I was a mess and felt defeated/crushed. A bunch of my friends even hit me up to say they saw her being extra flirtatious during that time and couldn't understand why when she had always been so faithful. Needless to say, we've split up.

After that I had a hard time trusting people and opening up based on the level of connection and the amount of personal/intimate things I shared with my partner and how I had it all thrown away in the blink of an eye on such a careless decision, and how I'd never really had something like that in anybody outside of my family and one great friend before. Afterwards I tried seeing other women here and there and when I dated someone I didn't really feel anything, and I found myself not really caring about them. Even tried just having casual sex with a friend of mine a few times who I found super attractive, and in the moment it was great, but afterwards I never really felt satisfied.

Sorry if this is super depressing, I'm totally over it now! Few months ago things just kinda clicked for me and I told myself I have my whole life ahead of me and I shouldn't mope and be closed off. Keep your head up and focus on the future and making yourself happy if something bad happens to you. :)

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