(SERIOUS) What is the biggest secret you’ve kept from your parents?

Well that’s the thing about indulgence. If it’s infrequent and your partner isn’t home and you just need to rub one out, go for it.

But when your partner is around and you go seek porn instead of engaging with them, that can be hurtful. ESP if it’s frequent.

Or maybe you’re just looking at nudes that pop up in your subs during the day. Then those folks who are on Snapchat and filling women on IG, for a lot of people, their consumption is frequent and always at their fingertips and at that point you can’t help but feel like it’s cheating. When the attention should be given to your partner but you looking at nudes throughout the day or liking shit on social media and then watching porn... that shit starts to feel like cheating.

I really don’t see it to be that different than emotional cheating. No one is touching or actively being physical with another person here, but you’re robbing your relationship of intimacy in both scenarios and a lot of men would be devastated to learn if their woman had developed a close bond with someone else. They wouldn’t like that. And rightfully so. Because they are taking intimacy outside of the relationship as intimacy is way more than just physicality. It’s a closeness and special thing you have with your partner.

Women want to feel desired and exhaling fulfilling to their mater. When they don’t it’s pretty fucking devastating. The attention should be on your partner, as long as it’s infrequent it’s a non issue, but when most people have access to this shit in some way or another everyday and it’s been a really big burden I feel we’ve placed on women to stifle how they feel about that and to just accept this as “natural”. And I think it created an imbalance in relationships where one party is getting what they want, sexual satisfaction by whatever woman they’d like, but the woman in the relationship is the one deserving of that attention and she’s not getting it. But if she were to post her tits online to get attention she’s not getting at home, suddenly she’s in the wrong even though she’s not getting the attention and desire from her own partner. So she’s left to feel like shit about herself and insecure and to get what she wants sexually would not be tolerated by most relationships so she’s just constantly losing on that front. This erodes so much and is honestly a pretty fucking simple thing to work out in a relationship but a lot of men flat out feel entitled to it and entitled to meeting their needs how they feel and seem to think as long as they aren’t touching it’s okay which is flat out wrong.

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