My now ex husband left me and our 2 young children after he became a US citizen about 9 years ago. We had only been married for 5 years and our children were 3 and 1 years old. Our relationship got way worse after he left. I was busy with the kids, work, and going to college part time so I kept myself pretty busy. But it was very hard on me I was very bitter and mad. It took me a lot of time with self help books and my friends hearing me vent for about 2 years to feel ok with myself and to be around him again. It took about 4 years to be 'over it'. He winded up asking me to get back together a couple of times during the 1st 5 years but gave up asking because I never let him back in. Even now I don't like that man but we are somewhat friendly. But deep down even though I allowed myself to forgive him in order to move on I will always harbor resentment towards him.