[Serious] What harmful myths have redditors created or perpetuated?

To be fair there is plenty to be afraid of if you are completely innocent. Try having to go to court for months while you have no idea what is going through the judges mind. The paranoia of having the book thrown at you in a "he said she said" scenario is what left my parents no choice but to spend over 20k because they worried nearly as much as I did. It definitely alters you're families dynamic when your parents and two sisters are supportive but the only proof they have is my own testimony. On top of that, my parents resented me because I ruined their plans of retirement and my sisters would blame me when they didn't get to do something because of financial quarrels. It honestly changed my entire life. I haven't felt like the same person after the entire ordeal.

As for her, she's now making porn on school property and pissing off local law enforcement because she finds it funny. She wanted attention and sympathy and when she didn't get it because her story was inconsistent she was willing to let me plea bargain for a misdemeanor that was unrelated to the original assault charges.

The prosecutor did this as a favor to me I'm assuming because he admitted she didn't have a strong case but had it gone to trial it would have cost me another 20k and it would go public so I was happy to end my nightmare with a $100 fine.

Also by accepting the plea bargain she faced no repercussions for her allegations, I was awarded no compensation for my emotional damages or lawyer fees only a sigh of relief and a good nights sleep for the first time since it all began.

My experience is a personal one and probably not uncommon minus the whole porn star quip. Going back to your argument - and I'll be HATED by some for proposing this - but I'd argue that depending on the circumstances and brutality of the rape I'm not entirely sure I'd choose what I had to go through over being sexually assault in the more prominent fashion. I honestly don't want to even compare the two because both are emotionally painfully and not everyone is going to have the same experience. My family suffered with me and it nearly broke us all apart and to me that was what caused me the most suffering.

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