[serious] What secret could ruin your life?

I’ve been sexually abused by my dad and occasionally 2 other men were involved aswell. This happend from around the age of 12 untill right about 16 (when my dad met his new wife). Only my boyfriend knows (and my best friend partially) we have talked about persuing legal action many of times but I am so scared that when I do everyone will know and my life will never be the same and people would look at me weirdly and stuff. I am 21 now and I feel like I’m dealing with what happend pretty well right atm. I haven’t seen my dad since he left me for his new wife. I had never told anybody because me and my dad had such a close bond growing up and this only enhanced once my parents divorced and I decided to keep living with my dad(he Kinda manipulated me into this decision and ugh I feel like I’m supposed to explain why I made the decision I did back when I was younger but it’s not that simple). I am the only girl out of 4 kids also so I was always my dad’s “favourite” growing up. Anyways. I always fear of this coming to light and I wish I could press charges and I would be guaranteed that no one will find out but I think that’s just not realistic. I am really close with my granddad (my dads dad) and this would absolutely ruin his life and I don’t think he will be able to cope with this. And my mom... and my brothers... I feel like I would wreck everybody’s life

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