[Serious] What secret could destroy your life if it got out?

I had sex with my husband's best friend, who happens to be my closest female friend's boyfriend, just the other day.

For years, there was a lot of sexual tension and flirting. Once, about 7 years ago, he and I had a drunken kiss that led nowhere. We just dropped the issue and carried on as friends, which we have been for about 10 years.

Last week, my husband (we've been together for 20+ years) and I had an argument, where I told him how unhappy I was. I said that I just wanted to runaway from him and our life and do something different. I was frustrated about a lot of things. He texted his friend and was talking to him about me and what was going on.

The next day, I got a text from him asking me to stop by his house after he got out of work to talk. This isn't an unusual thing for us to do. We can talk really well with each other and usually just co-miserate about our significant others. I was only there for about 20 minutes (just talking after a brief hug/peck on the cheek when I got there) when his adult son came home and I headed out. On Monday, he texted and said he was out of work early and wanted to know if I wanted to hang out and continue our conversation.

And, it happened. On the kitchen floor. It was quick and good and then it was over. We talked for a little while afterward, talking about how it had been 10 years of wanting that to happen. We both trust each other not to tell our SOs and a quick text the next day confirmed that we were still ok with each other - nothing weird or regretted.

But, it happened. If either of our SOs found out, our lives would be destroyed. My husband would literally kill us both. Seriously, he's an angry man. His gf would most definitely come after me and would absolutely tell my husband. I don't regret what we did, because it was a conscious decision and not a drunken-caught-up-in-the-moment act.

I understand I am not a good person, if you want to judge me based on this one incident in my life. I didn't do it to be vengeful or spiteful. I did it for purely selfish reasons. I accept that my life would be destroyed if that secret got out. Thank goodness for throwaways :)

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