I have a couple examples of a couple of people. First, my Mom. Her ex-husband abused me while they were still married. There was one time I specifically remember he and my Mom were in their room screaming at each other. This was nothing new so me (11), my brother (younger than 1), and my sister (2), were just sitting in the living room watching TV. Suddenly we hear a loud crash come from their room and my Mom screams, so I get scared and my brother and sister both run to me and jump in my lap. My ex-stepdad comes storming out of their room and walks past us, my sister in a tiny voice says, "Daddy?" and he turned to her and yelled, "I'm not your Daddy! Don't call me that!"
I yelled back, "Don't say that, you are her Father!" He gets mad and tells my sister to get off of me, and she does, he then tells me to go to my room. I pull the normal "you're not my Dad" card and he yells at me to give him his son, takes my brother out of my arms and puts him on the floor by my sister, and tells me again to go to my room. I sit there and glare at him until he picks me up and carries me to the gate that blocked my siblings from going down the hall, and drops me down on it. I hit my head on a wall and pass out, came to to hear my Mom yelling at him, kicking him in the leg (she had no shoes and he was a big man, so it definitely didn't hurt), and he eventually walked out of the house. I cried to my Mom about his abuse and she claimed he dropped me on accident, it was only because she kicked him, and the loud noise we heard was him falling into her bedside table. Situations similar continued for years. I moved out at 13 to live with my Grandma because I couldn't handle the abuse. I had begged for years to go and when my Mom finally allowed it, she told me, "You're going to live with your Grandma since you hate me so much." I cried to her that I didn't hate her, I hated him, and she wouldn't accept my answer.
My Mom left him in 2013. They have three kids together who are now 3, 9, and 11. I'm 20. He started referring to my 11 year old sister when she was 9 as "Mama," because he would make her take care of my then 1 year old sister all day while my Mom was at work. It was disgusting. I remember once he had the CPS called on him because my sister went to school bawling her eyes out, she was 10. A teacher asked what was wrong and she explained that her Father was trying to get her to say "Fuck you," and flip off the camera and she refused, so he screamed at her and called her all sorts of names. I sometimes feel bad that I didn't stay and protect them from him. I had no idea he'd do that to his own children, I thought it was just because I wasn't his that he abused me. I love my Mom, and our relationship is better now, but I will never forgive her for allowing him to abuse me and making up excuses for him. Even now after he's beaten his three kids, she refuses to acknowledge that he ever abused me and won't admit that he abused them. We know he's hit her but she won't admit that either.
My next, my boyfriends ex/sons Mom. She has 4 kids. 6, 5, 4, and 1 (1 year old is ours), all 4 have different Father's. Her house is a mess, has garbage, half eaten food, and dirty clothes all over the floor, she even had black mold for a while, she might still have it, I don't know. Her idea of raising the kids is sitting them in front of the TV and playing on her phone. She doesn't keep adequate food in her home for these children. She's had one taken away and he's with his Dad 1200 miles away, thank God. My poor stepson suffered a massive skull line fracture because of her neglect, she wasn't watching a 10 month old child who had just begun walking while they were upstairs, and he toppled down the stairs and bashed his head on a milk crate that his brother and sister were playing with at the bottom of the stairs. 10 months old and he had to have two staples in the top of his head and her excuse was "He fell trying to walk." We didn't find the truth out until last December, nearly a year after the incident, when my boyfriends sister and Mom decided they'd finally had enough of his exes shit and told me the truth.
Another, she got charged with neglect of her oldest (which is why she had him taken away) because she would leave the house before he got out of school, locked the door because it's a bad neighborhood, and would leave him sitting alone on the porch for hours until she got home. 4-5 days a week. He was 6 and she thought it was a better idea to leave him on the porch alone in an area where kids his age and younger have been kidnapped and raped or murdered, than to leave the door unlocked and let him go in and lock the door when he got home. She didn't even get him enrolled in school until the middle of November of 2013, he was 5, had turned 5 in February, and school starts in August. The next year, when her oldest was 6, she got the 5 year old in school late September and the 4 year old in school in mid October.
My boyfriend took care of her kids, to the point that when he came home one day from work saying he was too tired to cook (she has never had a job and would much rather live off the government aid she gets for the kids and whomever had his hand down her pants), she gave the older three each a piece of bread and sent them to bed. They were 3, 4, and 5. He of course made them dinner after that, but still, she was seriously going to send those poor kids to bed with a piece of bread for dinner.
I have a lot more, but I'll end it here. I just can't believe that people like this exist.