[Serious] when did you realize that one of your family members was a horrible person?

To be honest, most of my family is made up of horrible people, me included. But ooh, this is gonna be long.

Okay, so, my mom's side of the family, for the most part, is comprised of drug addicts, cultists, extremely religious (think delusional and "righteous" ones), predators, borderline psychopaths, and/or are very abusive. For example, my aunt was extremely religious to the point that if you said God's name in vain, wouldn't go to church, etc, then she would beat you until you were "ready to tell Jesus you're sorry for being a disgrace". She didn't care if you were her kid or not, if you won't go, she'll beat you. I can't even count how many times she had beat me for not wanting to go to church. And her kids, oh don't even get me started; they used to beat me and my brother, skinned our cats and dogs, shot us with BB guns, and tried drowning me to the point I actually blacked out and don't remember anything that happened after.

On my dad's side of the family, it's filled with drug addicts, alcoholics, and neglect. I know more about them than I actually do of my mom's side of the family. See, my uncle has a habit of getting with people, marrying them, then divorcing them all the while he has three kids that he never takes care of. And one of my dad's sisters is an major alcoholic that's married to an violent tattoo artist. From what I remember, she and her husband have been caught cheating on one another. I think their son took on that trait too since his sister posted on FaceBook about him bringing home "too many girlfriends".

My parents, on the other hand, are a bit of a toss up. For the most part, they're both extremely strict and uncaring of what we do, it's weird to explain.

My dad's both an alcoholic and smoker that absolutely refuses to let any of his kids outside the house. I'm barely even allowed to go get the mail when it comes. I'm nearly 20 and my older brother is somewhere in his mid-20s, yet we're not allowed to leave the house at all. Not to mention my dad will either ignore us for days on end or he'll scream at us for hours about something he's upset about. For example, one of the few times I was allowed to go out to the movies with some friends, they decided to meet me at my house and they were forced to sit there and watch as my dad screamed at me about being fat, ugly, disgusting pig and how I had to tell him beforehand if someone was coming over. Needless to say, my friends never came over again and drifted away from me pretty quickly. He often berates me for not having an ID or licence but if I mention no one will take me to get it, he starts screaming at me for being ungrateful and being too stupid to do anything myself. He'd also "playfully" hit us. He punch or slap us pretty hard, to the point we'd have bruises and marks, and he'd say we were overdramatic and couldn't take a joke. The only time he's nice is when he's with my mother. He treats her like a Queen and does everything for her.

My mom, well, I know almost nothing about her; all I know if she likes polka dots and the Walking Dead. For the most part, she prefers to stay in her room and watch tv. She won't say hi if you greet her, she won't answer you if you ask her how her day was, she just won't acknowledge you. I do know that when she does talk, all she does is scream at the dogs to shut up or complain about how we won't respect her and my dad. It's weird, she doesn't give us the time of day, but she's a social worker that works with (or used to? I'm not sure) abused kids. But what I do know is that sometimes I hear her talking to my dad about us and she always complains about how we won't do anything with ourselves or how we're ungrateful and disrespectful.

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