[Serious]Women (or men) of Reddit who were in abusive relationships, were there any early signs that they may be violent toward you?

oh I see, sorry, I misunderstood. It took some time for me to sweep it under the rug and "accept" his apologies, the first time. He seemed genuinely sorry the next morn after he hurt me, but claimed he didn't "remember" anything (he was admittedly quite drunk the first time he abused me). when I attempted to break up with him after, he didn't "believe" he hurt me; I had to show him the several bruises he left on my body.

It was a lot of, "sorry, sorry, sorry. Will never hurt you again. Will never do that again. I feel so horrible. I am such a piece of shit." And crying. It made me feel bad for him. I was so vulnerable and weak and stupid, I felt like I couldn't abandon him, I guess. Like he was so helpless, depressed, addicted to alcohol and without me, he would hurt himself and I would feel horrible for not being there to save him. Totally illogical, I realize now.

I remember that even after I stayed, I admittedly used the first physical abuse incident against him in ANY argument to make him feel guilty about whatever we were fighting about, 100% out of spite. I suppose I acted like I was past it, even though I felt there was no justice. I mean, I wanted it to be over (the relationship). I wanted OUT, truly. But I couldn't.

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